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I Learned As Much From My Teen’s First Job As He Did

June 14, 2020 By Katy M Clark

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I was sitting in my car in the parking lot of a banquet hall. I wasn’t there to attend a wedding or silver anniversary dinner. No, I was there waiting for my fifteen-year-old son.

 

Moments earlier, I had watched him walk into the office at the banquet hall. He was reporting for his first day of work as a kitchen assistant. He looked so official, dressed all in black. And so grown up. How did we get here so fast, to this day when he strode confidently across that parking lot away from me?

 

Taking a breath, I reminded myself of the benefits this opportunity would bring. With this part-time job, I hoped he would learn what all of us have learned from our first jobs: how to manage your time, respect your boss, be responsible, and work hard. I was looking forward to him earning his own money, too.

 

And can I add that by working a part-time job that summer he wouldn’t have so much free time to play video games? That pleased me, too.

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I was waiting in the parking lot, though, because I was unsure if he still needed me.

He had turned in his work permit and employment forms earlier in the week, but was everything in order? Did he need my signature one more time? A reminder of his social security number? And his employment contract had said no cell phones, but would he have a place to stash his or did he need to leave it with me in the car?

 

To be honest, it felt a bit like the worrying and hovering I had done that first day he went to kindergarten.

When his blue eyes had shone with both excitement and fear. When he let go of my hand and strode confidently into that classroom and away from me, clutching his favorite stuffed animal to show his new classmates.

 

And just like that first day of school, I learned that he could let go of me, walk into this new phase of his life and be just fine. After fifteen minutes of waiting, I saw no sign of him coming out to hand me his phone or ask me anything. I felt relieved, yet I also felt a lump in my throat. I drove home without him. As it should be.

 

That first day soon turned into his first week done, then into his first month completed. As time passed, I realized something surprising. Not only was my teen learning valuable life lessons from his part-time job, but I was learning a lot, too.

 

I learned that he was so capable. He checked his schedule. He picked up his paycheck. He made sure his uniform was clean and ready for his next shift. As it should be.

 

I learned it was okay not to be aware of every little detail of his life. His job did not send me weekly or daily emails like his high school did. My phone did not ping with constant notifications like the ones I got from his sports teams alerting me to practices and games. All communication about his job was solely between him and his employer. As it should be.

 

I learned that he still needed me, too. While I was relieved not to get the emails and notifications about his comings and goings, the fact that he still needed me filled my heart in a good way. I taught him how to cash or deposit his paycheck. We talked about spending his paycheck for fun stuff while saving for the future. I explained FICA. I coached him on how to approach his boss about a misunderstanding over his schedule. I was there for him when he needed me. As it should be.

 

As the summer drew to a close, and my son’s return to school loomed large, I was sad when he had to give his two weeks’ notice and the experience was ending. My son learned many valuable lessons from his first job, but I learned a lot, too.

 

I learned that he was capable. That he didn’t need me all the time, but that he still needed me some of the time.

 

I learned that I could let him go, even if just a little bit, just like that first day of school so long ago. I learned that he would be okay and my heart would be, too. As it should be.

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About Katy M Clark

Katy M. Clark is a mom of two who lives in Michigan. By day she works in academia. By night she writes about motherhood and the '80s. Her work has appeared on Grown and Flown, Your Teen for Parents, Scary Mommy, Today's Parent, and more. She embraces her imperfections as a mom on her blog Experienced Bad Mom.

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